What Type of Conflict Is This?
Answer a few questions about what's going on, and find out which conflict pattern you're actually in, and what tends to help.
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Interactive Tool · All Ages
What Kind of Conflict
Is This?
Answer a few questions about what is happening right now. You will get a guide to the conflict pattern you are in and what to do with it.
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Which of these sounds most like what you are dealing with right now?
Pick the one that fits closest, even if it is not a perfect match.
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How long has this been going on?
Trust your gut on this one.
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What relationship is this in?
This helps us give you the most relevant guidance.
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When you think about this conflict, what feeling shows up most?
Pick the one that is truest right now.
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Has there been a direct conversation about this yet?
Be honest. There is no right answer here.
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What do you most want from this right now?
Pick what feels truest, even if you want more than one thing.
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This tool is for general educational purposes only. HappiYou has not reviewed your specific situation and is not a substitute for professional support.
This tool is for general educational purposes only. HappiYou has not reviewed your specific situation and is not a substitute for professional support.